Since Carrie had written me about her new special piercing, I figured that it would be a good time to educate all of you readers about female genital piercing, including the reasoning behind them, styles, and the pain or pleasure associated with them.
Firstly, women and men can get genital piercing. For right now I am only going to be talking about vulva, clitoris, labia, and other sorts of lady piercings. Penis, scrotum, and guiche piercings are a whole different topic for a completely different day.
So many of you reading may be asking yourself right now, what would posses a girl to go and get her secret spot exposed and then harpooned. Though each girl’s reason getting a piercing is personal, in general the most common responses are that it makes their bits sparkly (i.e. more attractive) and that it greatly increases sexual pleasure. Moreover, many women report that genital piercings give them a particularly strong sense of pride in their vulvas, a sort of ownership that had never previously been experienced.
Before I can even talk about the reasons behind female genital piercings I should probably tell you about the different types of these experiences. Each area of interest has its own personality and side effects, therefore one should thoroughly study ALL types before a decision on locale can be decided.
One big factor in choosing which genital piercing you can get is your own personal anatomy. For some women, their vulvas just don’t have skin where skin needs to be, or anatomically a certain piercing will just be plain unattractive. After earning about the different types of piercings, you should go to a PROFESSIONAL piercer and ask him or her to check out your bits. They can then tell you which piercings you're built for and then you can make a well-informed decision, taking all precautions and prerequisites into mind.
Ok, so now onto the piercings. Firstly, I should tell you that when most people talk about “clit” piercings, they are more likely than not talking about clitoral hood piercings. The clitoral hood is the small (but in some women quite large) bit of skin that sits on top of the clitoris, protecting it from outside intruders and making it so that its owner isn’t constantly stimulated (an evolutionary anatomical mistake, if you ask MY opinion). There are several different types of clitoral hood (CH) piercings, and each is chosen by what the owner wants, aesthetics, and of course, anatomy.
The most anatomically fitting, stimulating, and fast-healing genital piercing there is the Vertical Clitoral hood piercing (VCH). This is the piercing Carrie got, and there is no wonder this is the one she decided to get. The VCH runs vertically (hence V) through the clitoral hood (and the CH). There is a picture of it at the bottom of Carrie’s post if you need some help understanding the directions.
Horizontal clitoral hood piercings are placed horizontally through the hood (so there are TWO holes made through the hood) and are more specific to anatomy. It is hard for some people to have enough clitoral hood skin to receive the horizontal hood piercing. This piercing also has less to do with clitoral stimulation as it does with appearance and vanity. In other words, you get a vertical hood for the pleasure, and the horizontal for the looks.
The Christina piercing is a surface piercing that does not exist to supply any sort of pleasure. This piercing is located on the mons pubis and usually consists of a barbell.
The Isabella piercing is a very long piercing that starts from the top of the vulva through under the clitoral hood. It is for those who enjoy the appearance of the Christina but who enjoy the clitoral stimulation of the VCH piercing. But like I said, this is a very very long piercing and is seriously painful, since you are going through a lot (and I mean a lot) of skin. You should really think before getting this, but if it is what you want, you should absolutely go for it.
Then there is the princess Albertina. This piercing is not only dangerous, it is damaging. Please don’t get this, even if you are hell bent. Any piercing that goes through the urethra is not only hard to heal but it can cause damage to your urine stream. Just think long and hard, and don’t make this decision based on friends or a movie you saw.
Lastly, there is the clitoris. An actual clitoral piercing is not only rare, but it can be dangerous. There is a chance or loosing all sensation when you get this piercing, and let me tell you, sometimes that just aint worth it! The upside? If the piercing is successful the rewards are incredibly stimulating. You should only get this done by a very VERY professional peircer (as with all piercings) and you can only get it if you have enough clitoral gland to actually pierce.
So now that you know all the dirt on jewels, I hope you can make a more informed decision on your own personal pleasure spot piercings!
Have fun ☺
Always,
Your Kinseyette
Friday, March 13, 2009
Saturday, March 7, 2009
To those who question...
I’ve been getting a lot of criticism recently about the way I talk about sex here in this column. People have said that I should base my writings less on the physicality of sex and more on the feelings associated with the act of “making love.” Others have said that I am talking about things publicly that should be reserved for the bedroom or for late night conversations with girlfriends and Cosmo magazine.
When it comes to the emotions behind sex, I am neither an expert nor will I even try to understand the vast range of feelings that are associated with the act of copulation. When it comes to sex some people feel nothing. They have sex with whomever whenever and never think twice about it. For others, sex is less about the physical and more about the fact that for those few fleeting moments two people are becoming ONE. For those few moments, there is no denying that you are not alone.
I can’t even start talking about emotions because they are ambiguous, strange, strong, and no amount of science or research can give me enough data to make valid and general conclusions.
Conversely, the physical is easy. You stab someone with a knife and statistically that person is going to feel pain. You suck on the clitoral hood of a woman and statistically she is going to feel pleasure. I grace a man’s nipples and he gets hard: there, evidence, he is turned on, that felt GOOD. The physical can be studied, and with those studies data can be accumulated. The same cannot be said for feelings. I cannot tell you to experiment with feelings, but experimenting with the scrotum? Now THAT is easy to prescribe.
To the argument that these words I write (sex, cum, head, penis, perineum, etc) are vulgar and gross, I say to you get over it. For too long women and men have had to keep their sexual selves a secret. They have had to hide their relationships with their vaginas and penises and have had to learn the hard way that their bodies work.
There are children who get pregnant and do not know how it physically happened. There are women who go their ENTIRE LIVES without experiencing an orgasm just because they never had the nerve or the strength to ask for some advice. There are boys who wake up soaked in semen and feel so ashamed that they try not to sleep at night to prevent it from happening again.
I speak for the people who want to know but who are too afraid to ask. I speak for the people who write me the emails, who stop me on McAlister and whisper a question into my ear.
Women get raped and feel like they can never pleasure a man or be pleasured themselves ever again. After they deal with the trauma of being raped, they don’t know where to start again. They need a spark, a reminder that just because they were violated they aren’t dead sexually. They will feel sexual pleasure again; they just need to learn how.
If you want a reason as to why I write what I write, go see the Tulane University’s production of the Vagina Monologues this weekend. The show is Friday, Saturday, and Sunday at 7 pm in Freeman Auditorium. Go see it and you will understand why I cannot stop writing about vaginas. You will understand why owning your sexuality is just as important as wearing clothes that fit you right.
SO here I am, without a column in the newspaper and without anywhere to help people. So if you get this, deep down, find some questions, and email me at xxxxnoochxxxx@mac.com. I promise you that I will be there for you when no one else is, when you feel like you are strange, alone, or lost. I will help you find what you are looking for and I will answer those questions that you just can’t even begin to face. Trust me, okay? I will NEVER steer you wrong. Ever.
When it comes to the emotions behind sex, I am neither an expert nor will I even try to understand the vast range of feelings that are associated with the act of copulation. When it comes to sex some people feel nothing. They have sex with whomever whenever and never think twice about it. For others, sex is less about the physical and more about the fact that for those few fleeting moments two people are becoming ONE. For those few moments, there is no denying that you are not alone.
I can’t even start talking about emotions because they are ambiguous, strange, strong, and no amount of science or research can give me enough data to make valid and general conclusions.
Conversely, the physical is easy. You stab someone with a knife and statistically that person is going to feel pain. You suck on the clitoral hood of a woman and statistically she is going to feel pleasure. I grace a man’s nipples and he gets hard: there, evidence, he is turned on, that felt GOOD. The physical can be studied, and with those studies data can be accumulated. The same cannot be said for feelings. I cannot tell you to experiment with feelings, but experimenting with the scrotum? Now THAT is easy to prescribe.
To the argument that these words I write (sex, cum, head, penis, perineum, etc) are vulgar and gross, I say to you get over it. For too long women and men have had to keep their sexual selves a secret. They have had to hide their relationships with their vaginas and penises and have had to learn the hard way that their bodies work.
There are children who get pregnant and do not know how it physically happened. There are women who go their ENTIRE LIVES without experiencing an orgasm just because they never had the nerve or the strength to ask for some advice. There are boys who wake up soaked in semen and feel so ashamed that they try not to sleep at night to prevent it from happening again.
I speak for the people who want to know but who are too afraid to ask. I speak for the people who write me the emails, who stop me on McAlister and whisper a question into my ear.
Women get raped and feel like they can never pleasure a man or be pleasured themselves ever again. After they deal with the trauma of being raped, they don’t know where to start again. They need a spark, a reminder that just because they were violated they aren’t dead sexually. They will feel sexual pleasure again; they just need to learn how.
If you want a reason as to why I write what I write, go see the Tulane University’s production of the Vagina Monologues this weekend. The show is Friday, Saturday, and Sunday at 7 pm in Freeman Auditorium. Go see it and you will understand why I cannot stop writing about vaginas. You will understand why owning your sexuality is just as important as wearing clothes that fit you right.
SO here I am, without a column in the newspaper and without anywhere to help people. So if you get this, deep down, find some questions, and email me at xxxxnoochxxxx@mac.com. I promise you that I will be there for you when no one else is, when you feel like you are strange, alone, or lost. I will help you find what you are looking for and I will answer those questions that you just can’t even begin to face. Trust me, okay? I will NEVER steer you wrong. Ever.
Sunday, March 1, 2009
Americans are prudes
Just check out this german CHILDREN'S book explaining the birds and the bees. Pretty simple, pretty easy, and hey, now we know where babies come from.
Always,
Your Kinseyette
Always,
Your Kinseyette
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
My Hoo-hah is bedazzled!
So this is an email I got from my girlfriend Carrie today:
Hey girl, just wanted you to know about something I JUST did, I figured you could post it on your blog and share it with the worllllddd!
So, I just got a piercing. Down THERE. That’s right girl, I just got my clitoral hood pierced! In actuality I got a vertical hood piercing, but I’m sure you’ll update your readers on what THAT means. I figured I’d share my experience with you to share with everyone else who is thinking about getting this done.
It all happened when I finally decided to get a piercing that only I would know about. I wanting something sexy and secret that would be my secret (even though I KNEW I would be telling all of my girlfriends as soon as I got back to campus). I did a lot of research and decided that the vertical hood piercing would be the best for me. After I knew what I wanted, I knew I needed to find who would do it for me. I wanted a professional, as that area is an area that I don’t really want anyone messing with. Through word of mouth (AKA one of my best friends Reggie who had hers done as well) that NOLA tattoo had a great piercer who did great work. I took her word, and I am so glad I did.
I didn’t need to make an appointment; I just had to show up. I finished my science lab and made my way to catch the streetcar to get to Nola Tattoo. Right when I left my lab I ran into Sydney. I begged her to go with me because I realized that doing it alone might be very, very difficult. She, being the good friend she is, agreed immediately, even after I told her why I wanted to go (for a piercing) and where I was wanting said piercing.
On the streetcar I was getting a little more nervous, but It wasn’t that bad. Finaly we made it to the parlor and I was totally ready to get started. Walt was so cool, understanding, and professional. I signed the needed releases, he helped me pick out the jewelry, and we got all ready to go. I decided on the normal silver barbell, since I didn’t want my hoo-hah looking like a Christmas tree quite yet.
It was time to go in the back room, take off my pants, and get the show on the road. It was a little strange sitting bare-assed on the piercing table with my legs spread, but I’ve been to the gynecologist before so it wasn’t that much different.
Walt and Sydney were both talking me through it, with Walt telling me everything he was doing every step of the way while Sydney was talking about random current events to help me get my mind off what was going to happen. Surprisingly I wasn’t feeling any butterflies or nerves in my stomach, but I was breathing in and out pretty heavily.
Walt cleaned the area, got the jewelry and needle ready, and told me to relax. I was squeezing Lila’s hand like NUTS and this point, and I knew that it was only a matter of time before I felt some intense pain. He told me it only lasted a minute and that he had to put the receiving tube under my clitoral hood to get the needle. This was a bit uncomfortable, as I had never had anything put under my clitoral hood. He then told me he was going to line up the needle and that I’d feel a pinch. I was so tensed I just wanted him to do it right then.
Before I could tell him to just do it, he did it. I immediately cried out, yelling something about Jesus, Mary, and the ever important but sometimes forgotten Joseph. The truth? It hurt like hell, but only for a few seconds. Soon enough he was putting the jewelry in and I was putting my underwear on. It looked adorable from what I could see, and I was very happy that I had gone through with it.
So in short, it hurt badly for a few seconds, then it was totally chill. And let me tell you, walking upstairs is so much more fun.
Hey girl, just wanted you to know about something I JUST did, I figured you could post it on your blog and share it with the worllllddd!
So, I just got a piercing. Down THERE. That’s right girl, I just got my clitoral hood pierced! In actuality I got a vertical hood piercing, but I’m sure you’ll update your readers on what THAT means. I figured I’d share my experience with you to share with everyone else who is thinking about getting this done.
It all happened when I finally decided to get a piercing that only I would know about. I wanting something sexy and secret that would be my secret (even though I KNEW I would be telling all of my girlfriends as soon as I got back to campus). I did a lot of research and decided that the vertical hood piercing would be the best for me. After I knew what I wanted, I knew I needed to find who would do it for me. I wanted a professional, as that area is an area that I don’t really want anyone messing with. Through word of mouth (AKA one of my best friends Reggie who had hers done as well) that NOLA tattoo had a great piercer who did great work. I took her word, and I am so glad I did.
I didn’t need to make an appointment; I just had to show up. I finished my science lab and made my way to catch the streetcar to get to Nola Tattoo. Right when I left my lab I ran into Sydney. I begged her to go with me because I realized that doing it alone might be very, very difficult. She, being the good friend she is, agreed immediately, even after I told her why I wanted to go (for a piercing) and where I was wanting said piercing.
On the streetcar I was getting a little more nervous, but It wasn’t that bad. Finaly we made it to the parlor and I was totally ready to get started. Walt was so cool, understanding, and professional. I signed the needed releases, he helped me pick out the jewelry, and we got all ready to go. I decided on the normal silver barbell, since I didn’t want my hoo-hah looking like a Christmas tree quite yet.
It was time to go in the back room, take off my pants, and get the show on the road. It was a little strange sitting bare-assed on the piercing table with my legs spread, but I’ve been to the gynecologist before so it wasn’t that much different.
Walt and Sydney were both talking me through it, with Walt telling me everything he was doing every step of the way while Sydney was talking about random current events to help me get my mind off what was going to happen. Surprisingly I wasn’t feeling any butterflies or nerves in my stomach, but I was breathing in and out pretty heavily.
Walt cleaned the area, got the jewelry and needle ready, and told me to relax. I was squeezing Lila’s hand like NUTS and this point, and I knew that it was only a matter of time before I felt some intense pain. He told me it only lasted a minute and that he had to put the receiving tube under my clitoral hood to get the needle. This was a bit uncomfortable, as I had never had anything put under my clitoral hood. He then told me he was going to line up the needle and that I’d feel a pinch. I was so tensed I just wanted him to do it right then.
Before I could tell him to just do it, he did it. I immediately cried out, yelling something about Jesus, Mary, and the ever important but sometimes forgotten Joseph. The truth? It hurt like hell, but only for a few seconds. Soon enough he was putting the jewelry in and I was putting my underwear on. It looked adorable from what I could see, and I was very happy that I had gone through with it.
So in short, it hurt badly for a few seconds, then it was totally chill. And let me tell you, walking upstairs is so much more fun.
Monday, February 16, 2009
You're PREGNANT?! DAMN YOU GRAVITY!!!!
SO I received a question via email today that needed some answering. It went a long the lines of:
Hey, I want some answers to sex questions. What role does gravity play in terms of the likelihood of pregnancy?
It was simple, clear, concise, and begged the question of whether or not this boy (or girl) is worried about the chances of getting pregnant. The question of whether or not gravity affects the likelihood of pregnancy is one of those urban sex myths that can be filed alongside that sneezing prevents pregnancy or that a girl can’t get pregnant their first time experiencing intercourse. Some people would like to believe that if a woman is on top she can’t get pregnant because semen wont be able to (due to gravity) travel up into the uterus and eventually to the unfertilized egg.
The affect of gravity on the movement of semen through the vaginal canal is so negligent that it doesn’t even really matter. Just think of the math: the average ejaculate contains 300 MILLION sperm in about 5 ml of fluid (with the average male dispelling between 1 and 1.5 ml during orgasm and ejaculation). Each and every single one of these sperm cells are trying there hardest to make it to the uterus, so gravity isn’t much of a challenge to these swimming stallions.
In truth, if you want to get pregnant and haven’t been able to, trying gravity-helpful positions (like missionary or with the girl on bottom) can do no harm. That doesn’t mean that gravity can help cause a pregnancy, it just means for those desperate few who want to conceive but can’t, anything is worthy of trying.
After thinking and researching about this topic, I came upon a few more urban sex myths relating to pregnancy and pregnancy prevention. I’ve heard and read about some pretty bullshitastic techniques of expelling semen from the body (or preventing semen from entering) that, if believed, will just result in a baby or two.
Firstly, I have heard that douching with coca-cola or sprite will kill the sperm inside the vagina. Before I even continue, I should probably tell you that douching doesn’t really do anything to prevent pregnancy anyways, so douching with coke or sprite will just irritate your vaginal wall and leave it with a fresh, lemony feeling (which, if that’s what you’re going for, go on with your lemon-lime self).
I’ve also heard that you can’t get pregnant during your period. Ladies (and gentlemen), cycles are so unpredictable and crazy at times that there really are no safe days or weeks to have unprotected sex without fear of conception. That’s why the rhythm method usually fails and why birth control and condoms are so much more effective.
A funny myth is that if the underwear stays on, no one can get pregnant. False False False. I know, it’s unfortunate and scary, but I should warn you that if this was indeed true, condoms would be made out of underwear material and dry humping would be way more socially acceptable. If sperm seeps through underwear, it is just a vulva and vagina away from impregnating an unsuspecting girl who thought she was being “virginal.” Don’t misunderstand me, this is a very rare case scenario and you shouldn’t freak out every time you get some semen on your special under things. Just remember that underwear isn’t really a barrier, its a fashion accessary (and a cute one at that).
A few more things: sneezing, jumping up and down, even coughing hard does not expel enough semen from the vagina to prevent pregnancy. Remember, on average there are 600 million sperm ejaculated at one time…. Coughing, sneezing, or jumping out even a million of these monsters wont stop them from trying to accomplish their mission.
Oh and yes, it’s true: a girl CAN get pregnant her first time, even if she hasn’t gotten her period yet. There are reported cases of girls whose sexual encounters occurred the same month of their first ovulation and they were buying diapers and baby clothes before ever having to buy pads and tampons.
SO children, in conclusion, be safe, use some legitimate barriers (female/male condoms, the pill, the ring, diaphragms, etc) and make sure that you don’t take any old wives tales to heart. If you do, you may end up a 30-year-old “old wife” with a 10-year-old child yourself.
Always,
Your Kinseyette
Hey, I want some answers to sex questions. What role does gravity play in terms of the likelihood of pregnancy?
It was simple, clear, concise, and begged the question of whether or not this boy (or girl) is worried about the chances of getting pregnant. The question of whether or not gravity affects the likelihood of pregnancy is one of those urban sex myths that can be filed alongside that sneezing prevents pregnancy or that a girl can’t get pregnant their first time experiencing intercourse. Some people would like to believe that if a woman is on top she can’t get pregnant because semen wont be able to (due to gravity) travel up into the uterus and eventually to the unfertilized egg.
The affect of gravity on the movement of semen through the vaginal canal is so negligent that it doesn’t even really matter. Just think of the math: the average ejaculate contains 300 MILLION sperm in about 5 ml of fluid (with the average male dispelling between 1 and 1.5 ml during orgasm and ejaculation). Each and every single one of these sperm cells are trying there hardest to make it to the uterus, so gravity isn’t much of a challenge to these swimming stallions.
In truth, if you want to get pregnant and haven’t been able to, trying gravity-helpful positions (like missionary or with the girl on bottom) can do no harm. That doesn’t mean that gravity can help cause a pregnancy, it just means for those desperate few who want to conceive but can’t, anything is worthy of trying.
After thinking and researching about this topic, I came upon a few more urban sex myths relating to pregnancy and pregnancy prevention. I’ve heard and read about some pretty bullshitastic techniques of expelling semen from the body (or preventing semen from entering) that, if believed, will just result in a baby or two.
Firstly, I have heard that douching with coca-cola or sprite will kill the sperm inside the vagina. Before I even continue, I should probably tell you that douching doesn’t really do anything to prevent pregnancy anyways, so douching with coke or sprite will just irritate your vaginal wall and leave it with a fresh, lemony feeling (which, if that’s what you’re going for, go on with your lemon-lime self).
I’ve also heard that you can’t get pregnant during your period. Ladies (and gentlemen), cycles are so unpredictable and crazy at times that there really are no safe days or weeks to have unprotected sex without fear of conception. That’s why the rhythm method usually fails and why birth control and condoms are so much more effective.
A funny myth is that if the underwear stays on, no one can get pregnant. False False False. I know, it’s unfortunate and scary, but I should warn you that if this was indeed true, condoms would be made out of underwear material and dry humping would be way more socially acceptable. If sperm seeps through underwear, it is just a vulva and vagina away from impregnating an unsuspecting girl who thought she was being “virginal.” Don’t misunderstand me, this is a very rare case scenario and you shouldn’t freak out every time you get some semen on your special under things. Just remember that underwear isn’t really a barrier, its a fashion accessary (and a cute one at that).
A few more things: sneezing, jumping up and down, even coughing hard does not expel enough semen from the vagina to prevent pregnancy. Remember, on average there are 600 million sperm ejaculated at one time…. Coughing, sneezing, or jumping out even a million of these monsters wont stop them from trying to accomplish their mission.
Oh and yes, it’s true: a girl CAN get pregnant her first time, even if she hasn’t gotten her period yet. There are reported cases of girls whose sexual encounters occurred the same month of their first ovulation and they were buying diapers and baby clothes before ever having to buy pads and tampons.
SO children, in conclusion, be safe, use some legitimate barriers (female/male condoms, the pill, the ring, diaphragms, etc) and make sure that you don’t take any old wives tales to heart. If you do, you may end up a 30-year-old “old wife” with a 10-year-old child yourself.
Always,
Your Kinseyette
from HJ's to BJ's
So when my best friend Johnny and his buddies read my article about why women should give hand jobs, their reaction was pretty surprising. They told me that though well written (they have to say that or I wont bring them beer and hook them up with my sorority sisters), the article was a little too far reaching.
The conversation went like this:
ADAM: We don’t want hand jobs. We really can do it better than girls anyways.
ME: So what do you want me to do? Write an article about why women should give head instead?
BOYS: (in unison) YES!
Talking to this table of hulking football players got me thinking about men and their “oral” fixation. It’s because of this that I am going to share with you some hints, tips, and advice to give some wow-you-give-it-like-a-porn star type of head.
Male oral sex has been called many-a-things since the beginning of its existence. People have called it head, dome, blowjob, and the scientific community calls it fellatio. Just because it’s called a blowjob doesn’t mean that there should be any blowing though (seriously don’t do it). This is a rookie mistake that can lead so some serious discomfort.
There are many reasons women enjoy giving head and men enjoy receiving it. Firstly and most obviously, women can do more with their cheeks, lips, and tongues than they can with their vagina. It’s a simple fact of physiology. People also enjoy giving head because it gives them not only a sense of intimacy, but also a sense of power. As Samantha in Sex & The City once said, “I may be on my knees, but I’ve got him by the balls.”
The art of the blowjob is simple in that penises are a lot less mysterious than the female equivalent. Think about it, it’s all out there wagging in the wind and there isn’t much to search for. When giving head, one needs only to know what parts of the penis are the most sensitive and what will feel bad.
Firstly, a note about anatomy. Unlike the clitoris which is a small area packed with nerve endings, the penis does not have the same sensitivity over its entirety. The head of the penis is where sensation is most exquisite, and therefore more time should be spent in this locale than on the base of the shaft.
To start on your fallatio endeavor, you should get into a position that is most comfortable for you. Certain positions can make the event more comfortable for both partners as well as decrease the affect of the gag reflex. Quick side note, deepthroating is a novelty not a necessity. Deepthroating actually doesn’t do much for a man in the sense of direct stimulation, but it can still be a turn on for him mentally. If you don’t want to do this but your man keeps pressuring you, grab a banana and tell him to stick the whole thing in his mouth. That should bring him down from that cloud real quick.
A great position to start with is where the woman is in between her partner’s legs while he is laying down. She can look up at him and he can watch her do her thing. A variation of this is if the woman is on top in reverse, like a 69 position. This is very erotic as the man can watch her do her thing from behind. The bad thing about this bad boy of a position is that the giver doesn’t have the best range of motion or the best access to the penis.
If the guy wants to do all the work (aka if he wants to gently thrust into his partners mouth instead of her doing the motion) he should sit on her chest and lean over her. This potition is great and allows a wide range of motion.
So now that we have positions, lets get into technique. If you haven’t ever given head, you can start by pretending that you are sucking on a Popsicle. This is just something to start out with, as eventually the man will get tired of the same repetitious movement.
To prevent gagging, you can keep a fist on the base of his shaft so that only about 3 inches of phallic monstrosity can enter your mouth. It feels good to him and he wont even notice why you are doing it.
You can lick the penis with the end of your tongue or give it a long lick with the fat middle part. They call this the “Shirley Temple” because it is as if the giver is licking a lollipop.
Try twisting your head when you are going down and up on the shaft. This gives the receiver a greater amount of stimulation. Make sure to focus on the upper half of the penis though, as this is where the most nerve endings are.
If you look at the penis, there is a long seam that runs along the shaft from midway through the scrotum all the way up to the head. Try licking from his testicles all the way up the entire shaft. He won’t even know what hit him.
Try pulling the skin on the penis taut. If you take your thumb and forefinger and place them around the penis a few centimeters above the base and pull down, the skin on the skin on the shaft will be pulled tighter and will, in turn, increase sensation. This may also encourage the man to come sooner.
While giving head, never neglect the nipples. Some guys have nipples that are super sensitive, especially during oral intercourse.
Creating a slight vacuum in your mouth is another technique that many men enjoy. By sucking in slightly, your mouth engulfs his shaft and he feels is so much more.
I know you’ve heard this before, but the perineum (the area between the testicles and the anus) is a great place to place a knuckle or two while giving head. Ask your partner first; otherwise things may not come to the way you want them to.
Ladies, play up the fact that he probably is watching you do your thing. Raise your hips in the air slightly so he can see your curves, and really show with your body how into the act you are.
To increase sensation even more, try tapping, humming, or vibrating your lips. It’s easy to understand why this feels good to a man, as this feels good for a woman as well.
Temperature changes can turn any luke-warm moment red-hot and flaming. Try putting hot water in your mouth to make the inside of your cheeks and tongue extra warm. It feels great on the man's member and the water can be used as extra lubrication when spit just isn’t working enough.
Talk about wants, needs, desires, and try your own experiments to figure out what feels good for you and your partner. Now that you know some positions, tips, and techniques, get down to business and have some fun.
Always,
Your Kinseyette
The conversation went like this:
ADAM: We don’t want hand jobs. We really can do it better than girls anyways.
ME: So what do you want me to do? Write an article about why women should give head instead?
BOYS: (in unison) YES!
Talking to this table of hulking football players got me thinking about men and their “oral” fixation. It’s because of this that I am going to share with you some hints, tips, and advice to give some wow-you-give-it-like-a-porn star type of head.
Male oral sex has been called many-a-things since the beginning of its existence. People have called it head, dome, blowjob, and the scientific community calls it fellatio. Just because it’s called a blowjob doesn’t mean that there should be any blowing though (seriously don’t do it). This is a rookie mistake that can lead so some serious discomfort.
There are many reasons women enjoy giving head and men enjoy receiving it. Firstly and most obviously, women can do more with their cheeks, lips, and tongues than they can with their vagina. It’s a simple fact of physiology. People also enjoy giving head because it gives them not only a sense of intimacy, but also a sense of power. As Samantha in Sex & The City once said, “I may be on my knees, but I’ve got him by the balls.”
The art of the blowjob is simple in that penises are a lot less mysterious than the female equivalent. Think about it, it’s all out there wagging in the wind and there isn’t much to search for. When giving head, one needs only to know what parts of the penis are the most sensitive and what will feel bad.
Firstly, a note about anatomy. Unlike the clitoris which is a small area packed with nerve endings, the penis does not have the same sensitivity over its entirety. The head of the penis is where sensation is most exquisite, and therefore more time should be spent in this locale than on the base of the shaft.
To start on your fallatio endeavor, you should get into a position that is most comfortable for you. Certain positions can make the event more comfortable for both partners as well as decrease the affect of the gag reflex. Quick side note, deepthroating is a novelty not a necessity. Deepthroating actually doesn’t do much for a man in the sense of direct stimulation, but it can still be a turn on for him mentally. If you don’t want to do this but your man keeps pressuring you, grab a banana and tell him to stick the whole thing in his mouth. That should bring him down from that cloud real quick.
A great position to start with is where the woman is in between her partner’s legs while he is laying down. She can look up at him and he can watch her do her thing. A variation of this is if the woman is on top in reverse, like a 69 position. This is very erotic as the man can watch her do her thing from behind. The bad thing about this bad boy of a position is that the giver doesn’t have the best range of motion or the best access to the penis.
If the guy wants to do all the work (aka if he wants to gently thrust into his partners mouth instead of her doing the motion) he should sit on her chest and lean over her. This potition is great and allows a wide range of motion.
So now that we have positions, lets get into technique. If you haven’t ever given head, you can start by pretending that you are sucking on a Popsicle. This is just something to start out with, as eventually the man will get tired of the same repetitious movement.
To prevent gagging, you can keep a fist on the base of his shaft so that only about 3 inches of phallic monstrosity can enter your mouth. It feels good to him and he wont even notice why you are doing it.
You can lick the penis with the end of your tongue or give it a long lick with the fat middle part. They call this the “Shirley Temple” because it is as if the giver is licking a lollipop.
Try twisting your head when you are going down and up on the shaft. This gives the receiver a greater amount of stimulation. Make sure to focus on the upper half of the penis though, as this is where the most nerve endings are.
If you look at the penis, there is a long seam that runs along the shaft from midway through the scrotum all the way up to the head. Try licking from his testicles all the way up the entire shaft. He won’t even know what hit him.
Try pulling the skin on the penis taut. If you take your thumb and forefinger and place them around the penis a few centimeters above the base and pull down, the skin on the skin on the shaft will be pulled tighter and will, in turn, increase sensation. This may also encourage the man to come sooner.
While giving head, never neglect the nipples. Some guys have nipples that are super sensitive, especially during oral intercourse.
Creating a slight vacuum in your mouth is another technique that many men enjoy. By sucking in slightly, your mouth engulfs his shaft and he feels is so much more.
I know you’ve heard this before, but the perineum (the area between the testicles and the anus) is a great place to place a knuckle or two while giving head. Ask your partner first; otherwise things may not come to the way you want them to.
Ladies, play up the fact that he probably is watching you do your thing. Raise your hips in the air slightly so he can see your curves, and really show with your body how into the act you are.
To increase sensation even more, try tapping, humming, or vibrating your lips. It’s easy to understand why this feels good to a man, as this feels good for a woman as well.
Temperature changes can turn any luke-warm moment red-hot and flaming. Try putting hot water in your mouth to make the inside of your cheeks and tongue extra warm. It feels great on the man's member and the water can be used as extra lubrication when spit just isn’t working enough.
Talk about wants, needs, desires, and try your own experiments to figure out what feels good for you and your partner. Now that you know some positions, tips, and techniques, get down to business and have some fun.
Always,
Your Kinseyette
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Always,
Your Kinseyette
Always,
Your Kinseyette
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